Deconstructing myths about BDSM

Posted by SVAKOM 18/01/2019 0 Comment(s) Official blog,

 

Handcuffs, ropes, whips and of course the name of Christian Gray are the first things that come to mind when someone talks about BDSM, a sexual practice that encompasses everything related to bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism. However, many of the things that are said on the subject are not true and to clarify them in this post we will dismantle all the false myths that exist about this exciting way of exploring sexuality. Are you ready? Cool. Let's start!

50 Shades of Gray is a pure reality

This book has provided tones of pleasure moments to millions of women (g spot vibrators helped even more), it has popularized BDSM to unimaginable quotas years ago since domination and sadomasochism were matters that were never talked about openly. Suddenly, something that was considered sordid or deviant has entered fully pop culture and everyone is delighted. Now, does 50 Shades of Gray have anything to do with reality? The truth is that not much. In fact, most of those who practice these trends are not exactly fans of the book.
One of the biggest problems that is observed is that the female character is pressured to do something to which she is initially reluctant. And most seriously, the figure of the dominator extends to other areas of the protagonist's private life. Here lies the most dangerous of all and that can confuse many people: BDSM is just a game in which you must participate freely. And when it's over, everyone follows their life on their own, without anyone intervening in each other's personal affairs.

BDSM involves pain or submission

Not much less! Everyone lives their sexuality as they want and should not do anything that displeases them. For example, many girls like the aesthetics of sadomasochism and are very interested in buying lingerie and dresses, sex toys for couples, as well as whips and other accessories that will only be used as a prop, to give a little spice to the situation. In other cases, couples find the exchanges of roles very exciting, where they adopt very different roles than they have in real life. Or you may like to be immobilized, either tied or with handcuffs.
As you can see, there are different scales within the BDSM that are very attractive. Therefore, if you do not like to feel pain or be dominated, simply choose all the other options you have at your disposal, that can include the usage of sex toys. In our store you can find a wide variety of items from the main adult leisure brands, made with high quality and hypoallergenic materials.

BDSM is the same as fetishism

Although the vast majority thinks about it, the reality is that BDSM is not a sexual fetish and according to experts on the subject it is simply a different erotic behavior than usual. However, to a certain extent the mistake is logical, since the toys and objects used in these practices are often associated with fetishism, such as heels and leather clothing.

To make things clear, a fetishist gets pleasure through these objects, while the sadomasochist gets excited by the sexual relationship itself. That does not imply that many BDSM followers are also fetishists, which provides twice as much pleasure.

Domination is a thing of men and the submission of women

This is another of the images that unfortunately we already had in our head before 50 Shades of Gray popularized. Well it is totally false, since girls are the ones who enjoy the most when they are in charge and control the situation. Women can be as good masters or dominatrix as men, since at this point do not enter questions of gender but the way of being and the personality of each one. In this election, the role played in reality is also important. In this sense, men who in their day to day are important in their work, have under their command a large number of employees and make key decisions, may need a release assuming the opposite role. As we have mentioned, it is only a game, where each party adopts its role with absolute freedom.